Today's form and structure of society is engineered so that most of us will fail. Yet most of us blindly accept this as a given and live our lives according to this structure. There is nothing worse than living a life that is engineered for you - a life that you have not chosen for yourself.
You Will Fail!
Unless you pay heed to that little inner voice, you know the one - the one that is constantly in the background. Nagging you. 'There's got to be more to life than this!' Your story, our story, the story of this generation is filled with people who are selling themselves short. We have fallen prey to the wrongful structure that has been forced upon us right from the start. We all are born into this world with limitless capacity and talent to do what we want to do. Somewhere along the way, 'real life' gets in the way.
What if I was to say to you that this is actually backwards? Real Life is what you were born to do. What you should be doing, all day, every day!
There are ways to achieve this. Don't let others tell you differently.
Following are 5 things that can - and do happen to most of us. If you are aware of these then they can be handled appropriately and will not be a blocker on the way to achieving the life you are meant to be living.
1. Regret. "The two most important days in a person's life are the day they were born, and the day they find out why." - John Maxwell
This has been written about ad-nauseam. By far, when people on their death beds have spoken about is that they settled on what others expected from them. They spoke about not having the courage to chase what they were after in life. When they are about to die, they are thinking about this as one of the biggest things they regret! That alone should give you an insight into just how much this actually means to you!
The more you settle, the more regret you will eventually have. SOLUTION: Do something each and every day that gets you closer to your dreams, not someone else's.
2. Decline in Creativity.
In one of my previous articles I wrote about how we are taught to fit in from around the time that we start our schooling. Being an individual is pretty much drummed out of you as you learn to assimilate and blend in. Conform to the rules. Original thought becomes something that is drilled out of us from an early age.
You will never be able to live life as yourself if you are forced to blend in and be another body in a world full of them. You are unique and your talents are unique. Leave a lasting impression on this world by being you.
This will never happen unless we let go of the fear that holds us back from being us. SOLUTION: Schedule blocks of time for your mind to wander. Allow your true self to shine. Every single day work towards being YOU.
3. Living Experiences What's the point in doing things in this life if you are not happy? Not having fun? Schedule time to ensure that you are doing things in life, living new experiences. These times will fuel the fire of your life and motivate you to move forwards in different areas.
SOLUTION: Get out and explore. It doesn't need to be a money experience. Walk around a new lake, hike a new mountain. Get out and have experiences! Just Get Out and GO!
4. Toxic Relationships. Have you ever heard the saying 'Misery loves company'? The same holds true for being mediocre. Be on an active look out for those people around you who are mediocre. They will never be the type of person that will applaud you on your success, in actual fact they will always be trying to bring you down to their level. Whether subconsciously or not. Remove these from your life, the effect on your own level of energy, positivity and peace of mind will be immediate. Don't let fear hold you back.
SOLUTION: Re-evaluate the top five people you're around the most, and limit time or get rid of those who don't 100 percent support your vision.
5. A mediocre legacy. "The wealthiest place on the planet is the cemetery, because it's filled with brilliant ideas and potential... all wasted.'' Tony Robbins
As we started with our deathbed, we will end this with our legacy. Don't settle for leaving a trail of mediocrity behind. Think about every single thing that you are doing today right now, as forming part of the legacy that you will be leaving behind for others. Those others will include your own children. When we are no longer around (may that day be very far in the future for us all!), how do you want them to remember you? That you kept a clean house? That you worked as... and were a very diligent and loyal employee? Seventy-one percent of people hate what they do and are actively disengaged at work. It's time to step up and make a difference. Time for change. Not tomorrow or next week or when you get a pay rise, but right now. You only get this life ONCE, so please don't spend it doing things you hate. Every action you do now is adding to the legacy that you are leaving behind.
SOLUTION: Be a role model right now to those who look up to you. Start working toward your goals now- each and every single day. Don't keep putting things off until it's too late. Let the true you come out in this life because that's when you'll be alive and at your most creative, and happiest.
Choose to be you - don't conform to others' views on what you should be. Create the real image of yourself and let it shine.
Do you, be you - each and every day.